Marriage and intimate relationships can be challenging. Sometimes even the best of relationships get crippled by a host of problems that bring a downward spiral of hopelessness and negativity. Infidelity, broken trust, the threat of divorce, an obstinate spouse, money conflicts, emotional neglect, separation, emotional/physical/sexual abuse, addictive behaviours, emotional infidelity, boredom, poor communication, lack of sex, lack of appreciation are some disturbing problems. Relationship problems can effect physical and mental health, self esteem, financial and professional productivity.
Ten signs that you need couples counselling
How relationship and couples counselling can help?
Couples counselling can help disturbed couples learn positive behaviours like ways to snap out of destructive cycles, how to stop dwelling in the past and start moving forward, how to overcome old hurt, how to rebuild love, romance and trust in your marriage, learn effective communication styles, improve intimacy and desire, get past trauma of infidelity.
Attending therapy is a major life changing decision. Generally couples take many years before they decide to meet a therapist. In many cases one partner is very reluctant and refuses to participate in the joint counselling process. Such reluctance creates more resentment and spoils the therapeutic process.
While ideally it is best to have both partners in couples counselling but sometimes couples cannot resist arguments in sessions or they are not totally honest with their partner sitting in the session and are unable to reach clear goals.
Individual couples counselling with one partner works
Individual couples counselling with one partner alone is equally successful. Regardless of who started therapy first when one partner learns the skills and tools to change the destructive patterns of communication, anger, blame, mistrust—the relationship starts improving.
At PSYCHIATRY FOR WOMEN our style of therapy is highly individualized and custom made to the client. Starting at the first few sessions we make an assessment of the relationship to identify the destructive cycles and understand the problem from each partner’s perspective. This may require both partners filling some paper pencil assessments. In certain cases either spouse may need a detailed personality and psychiatric assessment. If psychiatric assessment points to presence of depression/ anxiety/ personality problems that benefit from medication, the same is suggested to the couple.
This is followed by individual sessions and joint sessions to help couples resolve their conflicts, improve communication and problem solving and develop joint goals. Initial sessions are preferably individual sessions directed at healing of each partner and creating individual clarity and goals. Each session is power packed with intensive learning for the client. Each session lasts 45 minutes and one to two sessions may be planned weekly. Each session is followed by homework assignments for the couples.
We also offer a single point of contact crisis intervention session.
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